Relationships: What do You Believe is Possible?

Dating, Relationships, Beliefs, Time, Now

Dating and Your Romantic Beliefs

Romantic Relationships – Why You?

Because you are 100% worthy and tired of wasting time. Because you’ve spent your whole life taking care of other people’s needs and being commended for it, but not celebrated for it. Women are celebrated when they’re engaged then married then have children and their children graduate and get good jobs and then get married and have their own children. You are not celebrated for dropping what you’re doing and taking care of your parents or siblings or staying late at work every, single. night. You are only expected to do it. And you’re expected to be available to help the women who are married and have children, whether they’re your business associates or your family members. 

You’re also not celebrated for creating business success, still, to this day, because you haven’t found a man to take care of you. Do you sometimes feel like the only way you’ll ever be celebrated is to create your own family, be in your own relationship with your own children? Do you want that? You’re allowed to really want that.

Respect. Love, Inclusion. Celebration. To feel a part of a whole and good about yourself instead of always feeling like you’re lacking a key component. You want to feel good instead of never good enough. 

If this is what you want, click here and learn one thing you can start doing today that will change your idea of dating for good!  https://lenaehrenberg.com/

Romantic Relationships – Why Lena?

In these days of trying to make lifelong connections online while staying socially-distanced, (how can that even happen?) dating feels more like an off-road trek than a stroll in the park. And because I’ve been where you are I’ll give you a personalized roadmap so you can stay focused on your journey and reach the pinnacle without all the time-wasting detours you’ve already encountered trying to reach your heart’s desire. 

You need to coach with me because I’ve been single all my life; I know how it is to not know how to date successfully – and I know exactly what it takes to course-correct. I know how it is to give your heart and your time to the wrong man over and over. I know how it is to not be celebrated. Just like you. 

I’ve been dating all through this time of being sheltered in place and socially distanced and just, for heaven’s sake, wanting to feel the old normal, and I’m now in a loving, respectful, supportive, enriched, committed relationship with my rightest match ever and you can be, too! 

I’m an expert in figuring out exactly what you need to start having a lot more fun dating. Click here to get the first thing:  https://lenaehrenberg.com/

Romantic Relationships – Why Now?

Because you really want to have a family and don’t believe you have a lot of time left to wait. You can’t face another year in pain like this, year after year seeing all your nieces and nephews getting married for heaven’s sake! 

Because you’ve been thinking about all the ways you can possibly have children, thoughts about eggs and cutoff times and expense and invasiveness and adoption. Please tell yourself the truth. You don’t really want to raise a child alone. You’re done doing everything alone and you just want to feel like everybody else, dammit!

You need tools, techniques, accountability and a safe space to learn it all! And when you’ve implemented the things you’ll learn, you’ll have the relationship you want with your right match; the man who commits to you, the man who gets you and loves you for all your quirks, not in spite of them; the man who adores, cherishes, loves, protects and provides for you. 

I can help you date differently than you ever have before which will ultimately lead to the outcomes you want – spending your time in a relationship with your right match rather than wasting time trying to get all the wrong men to make a commitment. Oh, and btw, you’ll have fun while you’re doing it, which is so much better than the way you’ve been doing it.

If you haven’t figured it out on your own yet, what do you think will change if you keep trying? Try this:  https://lenaehrenberg.com/

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Romantic Relationships Reasons Why Now!

 

Yes! You Can Create the Romantic Relationship You Want!

What if you weren’t supposed to be married to that guy you dated in college?

And the reason I know you’re wondering that is, I used to – very occasionally – wonder that myself. Until the day he found me on Facebook and we friended each other and started following each other’s posts and … it took me less than a minute to realize that he and I were polar opposites in our values and I gladly gave up the FOMO and embraced the JOGO! (Joy of Getting On) I live serene in the knowledge that it worked out exactly as it should!

You CAN create the enriched romantic relationship you desire and have fun doing it. How do I know? Because I’ve done it! I’m in it! Here’s one way:

Instead of spending a lot of time thinking about the men you knew in the past, and all the reasons you believe it didn’t work out with any of them, think about the kind of man you’d like to meet in your future – and know the future can start now!

Would you like a partner who is very talkative, very contemplative or very funny? Looking for a man who enjoys going out, staying in, a little of both? Kids, no kids? Pets, no pets?

Envision the life you want to live and the ways you want to live that life; all the days, the weeks, the years of it – make it real for yourself. Funny, isn’t it – I’m asking you to dream for real

Dating can be fun. Not only can be, it’s imperative! Why? When was the last time you willingly did something that wasn’t any fun? Yes, willingly! You want to look forward to meeting him; the one you seek who’s seeking you, right? 

Think about this – you’ve tried doing it the way so many other women do – believing that dating is hard and feeling resistant to it and ultimately not having any fun doing it.

Now try believing it’s simple when you know how to do it (and I’m an expert in helping women learn how) and feeling willing and having fun! You’ll thank me later. As a matter of fact, you both will! 

Click on the link to learn how to make dating a lot more fun!

Romantic Relationship? Yes I can!

Yes! You Will Create the Romantic Relationship You Want!

I know this is true because you have no other option. Well, I mean, maybe you do have another option, but you don’t strike me as the kind of woman who will not achieve something that is so important to you, something that lies at the very essence of who you are and who you believe yourself to be. 

When you envision the life you want to live, how will you feel when you set eyes on your man for the very first time? Will you feel that spark of recognition you’ve felt at other times about other imperative things; will you have an aha! moment?

Will you feel excited or nervous or curiously calm?

What about the way you’ll feel on that first Saturday night when you realize you could just as happily go to the grocery store as a nightclub, or stay home altogether, because you’re no longer seeking, you’ve found him, and as long as you’re with him you’re where you want to be.

You get to think thoughts and feel feelings that spark joy for you! You get to feel willing and excited and nervous all at the same time. You’ve spent your whole life having and being and doing for others and now you get to have, be and do for you.

Oh, yeah, that question that keeps popping up … if it was meant to happen why hasn’t it by now? What if you couldn’t have met your right match before now? Maybe he was married before and then divorced and spent time doing the work he needed to do to get ready for you? Maybe he was raising a child or caring for an elder or getting his business to the point where he can take more time off now than he ever could before?

This is how to stop thinking about your past and trust that it’s all worked out exactly as it was supposed to – repeat after me:

I know it worked out the way it was supposed to because it did.

Repeat again.

And again.

If you need more help implementing what you’ve learned, that’s what I’m here for.

Click on the link to learn how to make dating a lot more fun! 

Romantic Relationship? Yes I can!

I want to. That’s the best reason ever to Create Your Romantic Relationship!

The relationships in your past are in your past for a reason. Whether you’ve had what you consider to be many or a few, they didn’t work out because they weren’t supposed to.

Now, what do you want to do about creating the most enriched romantic relationship you’ve ever experienced? Or, what do you want to do about creating the most enriched romantic relationship you’ve ever experienced now? It’s time.

You get to want to have whatever kind of relationship you choose! You get to want joy and romance and excitement and bliss and comfort and safety and security and a shoulder to lean on.

The one seeking you has been on his own path, learning his own lessons, evolving himself to step into the unique relationship only you two can create together.

What are you doing to be as ready for him as he is for you? 

Click on the link to learn how to make dating a lot more fun! 

Romantic Relationship? Yes I can!

 

Romantic Relationships – Reasons Why Not

 

If the only reason you can’t is because you never have

See this sea of roses? It reminds me of what my life is like since I met my boyfriend. 

We met online, and in deference to there being shelter-in-place orders in effect we took it slow. We messaged, we spoke, we video-chatted, we went for a walk around the lake. He said he’d like to see me again and I said yes. And when he asked what I’d like to do on what would be our first official date I mustered all my courage and said … 

There’s this piece of furniture I want to refinish, would you please help me with that?

Not only did he say yes, he showed up with all the tools we’d need and a dozen roses!

And he’s been bringing me flowers ever since.

There was a time in my life when I said, I can’t have the kind of relationship I want because if it was meant to happen it would have by now.

And then I sabotaged every relationship with every man who came even close to being what I wanted. 

I said I can’t so I didn’t. So then I got to be right about it never having happened.

Dating was really, really hard because I made it that way. Eventually I realized my way wasn’t working and I hired a coach who helped me see how I was creating what I said rather than what I wanted. My coach showed me all the things I was doing to stand in the way of my own happiness, and I learned how to kick those habits to the curb and experience the joy I saw other women having.

Do you want to keep being right or do you want to roll in a bed of roses? You really do get to choose! And when you’re ready to create what you want to happen rather than what you say will happen, hiring a coach will get you there much more quickly than you trying to figure it out on your own. Think of me as your GPS for dating! 

If you’re really ready, get on a 20-minute discovery call with me and find out how to get from where you are now to where you want to be: https://lenacoachsession.as.me/

If the only reason you won’t is because you never did

How much of a risk-taker are you? If I said I was going hot air ballooning or parasailing tomorrow, or to Morocco next month, would you jump right up and say, take me with you! 

I’ve never considered myself much of a risk-taker, especially when it comes to physical activities, although I have gone hot air ballooning and parasailing and when my friend told me she was going to Morocco in a month I heard the words, take me with you! coming out of my mouth before I realized I’d even thought them. And she did.

Morocco was exotic and amazing and ballooning and parasailing were both pure, joyous fun! I checked them off the list on two consecutive birthdays.

That was after the birthday when I got my tattoo. 

For years I wanted a tattoo, and I could never settle on what it would be. I decided and then changed my mind dozens of times. I also wondered where I’d go to get it. Then one day I wandered into a tattoo shop and started talking to this artist who I liked immediately. I liked her work, too, and I walked out with her card and a new determination.

After years of indecision, within a few weeks I knew exactly what I wanted to live with for the rest of my life and I got it done. I could have said I won’t do it. I could have kept looking for the perfect idea for the rest of my life. Instead, I made up my mind and it all came together perfectly. As if it was meant to be … 😉

If you’re not in the relationship you want it’s not because you haven’t found the right person yet. You haven’t found the right person yet because you’re not determined enough to figure out what’s stopping you. Lucky for you, I am an expert at figuring out what’s stopping you!

Let’s get on a free 20-minute video call together so you can discover what’s keeping you from finding him and what to do about it: https://lenacoachsession.as.me/

You need to have a better reason not to

Whether you’re like I was and think you somehow don’t deserve to have what you desire or you won’t do what you need to do to make it happen, the result is the same – you’re not in the relationship you really, really want. Isn’t it time to figure out why? 

What rational reason is there for you to keep holding yourself back? 

Do you think it will be hard? You do hard things every day.

Do you think it will be painful? You feel the pain of not having a partner now.

Creating the enriched romantic relationship you crave, having a partner who shows up for you in every way you’ve ever wished for and in many ways you’ve never imagined, isn’t hard. It isn’t beyond you. It isn’t the domain of every other woman on the planet except you. And just like my tattoo, finding out how you’re standing in your own way doesn’t have to cause you pain.

When you’re ready to create a different outcome in your dating and relationships than the one you keep getting on your own, DM me or leave a comment so we can talk!

Discover why he’s not here yet and what you can do about it. Click on the link and schedule your free call: https://lenacoachsession.as.me/

 

If You Want a Different Relationship…

If you want something different you need to do something different.

YOU deserve to feel giddy with delight on Every! Single! Date!

You’re a Smart Girl, you know it’s the actions you take that ultimately create your outcomes. If you want to create a different outcome in your relationships than the one you keep creating it makes sense that you’re going to have to do something different than what you’ve been doing.

But you truly believe you’ve done absolutely everything possible and things just don’t change. The thing is, just because you’re doing different things (like using different apps) you’re probably doing them in the same ways, (like only engaging with men who are unavailable) and that’s what’s creating your same-old, same-old outcome. 

What I mean is, maybe it’s not what you’re doing but how you’re doing it.

Your feelings fuel your actions. Literally, like rocket fuel. And I think that actions are not just what we do, they’re also how we do what we do – our behavior. 

Imagine yourself doing something simple like pouring a glass of water. When you’re feeling calm you can pour a glass of water without spilling a drop, almost as if you’ve done it all your life! 😉

Now imagine feeling really nervous about something, shaking nervous, and trying to pour a glass of water – you know some of that is landing on the table. Fuel.

How did you feel on your last date?

How do you want to feel on your next date? Happy? Playful? Giddy with delight? 

Oh yes, you can, you simply need to find the right grade of fuel – and I can help!

Have you really done everything to create your right match?

What do you think it’s going to take to get you to the feeling you want to feel on your next date? That was kind of a trick question. It’s your thoughts that create your feelings, so the thing that’s going to get you to the feeling you want is a thought that will create that feeling within you. 

That’s just crazy, right? It’s the man, right? It’s always the man. It’s what he does or doesn’t do, says or doesn’t say, it’s just him, right? Sorry, no.

Your thoughts create your feelings. Every. Single. Time. Consider this: when there’s a man sitting across the table from you and you like him, it’s because you’re thinking about how much you like the way he looks, the way he talks, the things he says! When there’s a man sitting across the table from you and you don’t like him, it’s because you’re thinking about how much you don’t like the way he looks, the way he talks, the things he says. None of it.

So, now that you know that your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings fuel your actions and your actions create your outcome, what do you think about the outcomes you keep getting in your romantic relationships?

Are you meeting men online and messaging and talking and meeting and you just haven’t met the one? Maybe you are doing everything you can do and it’s just a matter of time. Maybe you really don’t have to take different actions, but if you’re not yet in the relationship you desire you probably have to take those actions in a different way.

How much more time are you willing to give this? Do you want to keep doing it your way and hoping that some day it will work? 

Wouldn’t you rather spend time being with your love than just looking for him?

Yes, you CAN feel giddy with delight – and here’s how!

How about investing the smallest amount of time to create the grandest result ever? Rather than spending a lot of time trying to figure out different things to do or how to do things differently, invest your time in feeling different. For this you’ll have to think different thoughts.

Is dating hard? Are all men relationship-phobic? Do all men only want sex or women who are 10 years younger than you? Is it impossible to date during a pandemic? Do you have to lose fifteen pounds to get a man’s attention? If that’s what it takes to get his attention heaven only knows what you have to do to keep it, right?

When you think these thoughts do you feel Angry? Frustrated? Sad? Hopeless?

Just like when trying to pour a glass of water when you’re shaking with nervousness, if you’re going online or getting on the phone or going on a date with someone while you’re feeling angry, frustrated, sad or hopeless you are going to spill all over the table – he’ll be able to see it, hear it, feel it. No matter what it is you’re actually doing.

When you’re ready to create a different outcome in your dating and relationships than the one you keep getting on your own, let’s talk!   #havemorelove

Discover why he’s not here yet and what you can do about it. Click on the link and schedule your free call: https://lenacoachsession.as.me/

Romantic Relationship Ready

 

I know you think you’re ready.

You’re ready to have a partner by your side, someone with whom you can share laughter and tears, ups and downs, good times and hard times. You’re really ready to have a companion, someone you can talk to, who will talk to you, someone you can whisper to who will listen close so as not to miss a word, who will as happily accompany you on a Sunday walk as to a Saturday night movie or your best friend’s daughter’s wedding. 

Because isn’t that the point of being in a romantic relationship? It’s the companionship, right? It’s having someone to share your hopes and dreams and vision. It’s not having to do things alone ever again, forever and ever, amen! 

Well, that and the sex. Having one person with whom you can be as physically intimate as you are emotionally. 

And yet, it begs the question, how emotionally intimate are you with yourself? How closely do you listen when your own heart whispers? And if you do listen closely, what’s your response? It’s probably very much on the surface, and I’m asking you to dig underneath to a level where you can really take good care of yourself.

Are you ready to meet someone else’s needs in a romantic relationship?

Sharing laughter and tears, ups and downs, not being alone at your best friend’s daughter’s wedding … all of these are nice outcomes of being in a relationship, but none of them is exactly the purpose.

There is just so much you can do to facilitate your own personal growth alone. And the thing a romantic relationship will do for you in ways that nothing else can, is 10X your self-awareness, self-love and self-growth. But only if you let it.

The people who suffer in relationships, (and cause their partners to suffer alongside them), are the ones who think their partners are there to provide for their needs. They also think they can participate in one and remain the same as they were when they started. They’re the ones who spend a lot of time and energy trying to get their partner to change so they can feel better. It might sound like, “If you loved me you would…” or, “I need you to…” 

I don’t believe for one minute that someone else is supposed to give me what I need – I actually don’t believe it’s even possible. Needs aren’t things, like phone calls or text messages or even attention, they’re how we feel, like cherished and respected and loved, and because our own feelings come from our own thoughts, nobody else can give us our feelings, only we can do that. 

For you to thrive in a romantic relationship you need to figure out what you need and then how to provide it for yourself! And no, I’m not talking about taking actions like having intimate connections or sex outside of a committed partnership, I’m talking about learning exactly what the feelings are that you seek to feel that are driving those actions.

Do you believe that someone else ought to change their behavior in order for you to feel better? Okay, well then, tell me – how does that play out when someone else thinks you ought to change what you’re doing or saying so they can feel better? Yeah, I thought so.

Are you ready to make this the year you stop sabotaging your relationships?

Do so many of us sabotage our relationships because deep down inside we don’t want to be responsible for taking care of someone else’s needs? 

The answer for me is, absolutely! And if you feel the same that’s an even better reason to get a handle on how your needs – and everyone else’s – really work so you can stop working against the thing you really want and make 2021 the year you create that committed, romantic relationship you’ve been seeking for so long.

If you’re someone who:

  • Expects a man to call or text you every morning and evening when you’ve just met
  • Wants to be introduced to his friends and family after only a couple of dates
  • Decides you’re ‘in a relationship’ after only a couple of dates

Ask yourself how you think you’ll feel when that thing happens. 

  • How will you feel if a man calls or texts every morning and evening?
  • How will you feel when you’re introduced to his family and friends?
  • How will you feel when you’re really and truly in a relationship?

The feeling is what you’re after, fulfilling that feeling is your need – not whatever the thing is you think you want. 

Let’s say you feel loved when someone calls or texts you. It’s not just because of the communication, it’s because of the importance you give to it. But … how will you feel if the calls and texts stop coming?

If you don’t figure out what you really need and how to provide it for yourself, you are going to be focusing on the actions someone is taking rather than on the only question you need to be asking at the very beginning – do you like him?

Romantic Relationship or Free Shipping?

 

What does God know about romance?

I know you think it’s hard to meet a good man. You also think that Covid has set your plans back by a year and you’re afraid you missed your chance to have the husband and family you’ve wanted for so long. Are you feeling a bit … impatient?

When you say your prayers at night what is it you seek? A good husband? A great father? An excellent provider? And what about his qualities – Considerable financial means? World Traveler? Commitment to a religion that is your own? Of course, if these qualities can be wrapped in a 6’2” frame with great hair and a killer smile, so much the better, right? That’s your ideal. Actually, that would be ideal

You’re impatient because you believe you’ve not yet met the man who checks all the many, many, boxes. And you’re getting a little …umm, tired … of people suggesting you might be too picky. Why shouldn’t you have a partner who has all the things you want

Be honest – are you offering a prayer or placing an order?

If God did know about romance, it would be different.

When you do go online and scan the profiles, what is it you find? Are there many men who check all the boxes? Nope. Often it seems there aren’t even any. Apparently the ones you seek do not exist and the ones seeking you are definitely not marriage material. How many times, in the stillness of the night, have you asked God, “Why?”

Why does it seem to happen for everyone else but you? Why are other women in beautiful partnerships with amazing men and you’re not? Why aren’t you ever attracted to the ones that pursue you? The nice ones are so boring, and the exciting ones aren’t very nice.

God (the Universe, the Law of Attraction) is presenting the same men to you as to all the rest of us. What is the lens through which you are viewing them? I find that when I stop being impatient and allow patience to have Her perfect work the world in which I live is more ideal. 

God governs time, not me. I’ve learned to look for the green flags, because when I only look for the red flags, when I keep repeating all the negative mantras – dating is hard and all men are this and no man wants that … that’s all I see. I’ve learned that men are people too, and to expect one to be all things is wrong of me, not of men. I’ve learned that no man is a perfect human, and yet there is a human man who is perfect for me

Maybe the question is, what does God know that I don’t?

I’ve had long term relationships, although I’ve never been married, mostly because I never wound up dating anyone I could see myself happily married to. The reasons for that are many, and I’ll explore them more throughout this journey, the point here is, since I transformed my thoughts about dating my results have been transformed as well. Each of the relationships I’ve had in the last 5 years has been better than the one before. 

I met a man online in September and as we’ve gone slowly through the maze of socially-responsible dating during a worldwide pandemic I experience his many qualities that beautifully align with my values and lifestyle desires; including acquiring a passport so we can traverse the streets of Paris together and embracing my religion because he had been seeking one for himself. We have a Want Match, and it’s a beautiful way to live! But hear me – he hadn’t had a passport since High School and he wasn’t already a member of the church in which I was raised, as a matter of fact he’d never heard of it.

So maybe God isn’t Amazon Prime. Maybe you don’t place an order and receive a delivery in 2 hours, pop open the box and find a man who is prepackaged with all the things you want because it’s you who are supposed to inspire him to find the experiences he needs.

#havemorelove #havefundating #lovedating #singleandspiritual #lovemakeovers #datingandrelationships #onlinedating #midlifedating

Romantic Relationship and Finding Yourself

 

I see you hiding back there, even though you thought I wouldn’t see you, didn’t you? And if I didn’t see you, you wouldn’t have to do the work on yourself, right?

Just like when I’d try to hide in the back of the crowd during gym class hoping I wouldn’t have to climb a rope or walk a beam or jump over a pommel horse. The only problem is, if I only heard about it, or watched others do it, I’d never learn to do it myself.

For a long while I was the exact same way about dating. I kept watching others do it thinking that would help me, while I wasn’t doing very much of it myself, but there were a whole bunch of things I was doing…

Taking classes, reading books, listening to podcasts and attending workshops will take you just so far. They can teach you things, but in order to actually learn something you need to practice it. To have the thing you want you have to actually do the thing you want.

If you’re wondering why you’re not in a relationship even though you want to be, you really need to look at all the ways you are benefiting by being alone. I can think of one thing…

What’s amazing about being in a romantic relationship is that you’re forced to grow. What’s scary as sh*t about being in a romantic relationship is that you’re forced to grow!

There’s no way around it – if you want an enriched romantic relationship with the partner who’s your rightest match you’re going to have to grow yourself through it. It’s easier said than done. That’s why I stayed alone and apart for so long – I wasn’t ready for that level of intimacy with anybody, least of all myself.

If you’re like I was, really ready to meet your rightest match and yet not taking the actions you know you need to take, you might really need a coach to help you move from where you are now to where you want to be.

Get yourself on my calendar. Find out what’s holding you back and I promise you’ll find yourself in the process.

 

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Romantic Relationships and Holding Onto You

Romantic Relationships - Holding Onto You
Romantic Relationships -Holding Onto You

I could have sworn I used to be in here somewhere, where did I go?

The other day I talked about how I used to lose myself in relationships, and then stop even trying to date. Losing myself sounds so passive, it sounds like something that just happened one day when I wasn’t looking (like all the times in my life those same 10 pounds just snuck back onto my hips). But maybe I didn’t just lose myself in the relationship, maybe I gave myself up for it. And maybe you’ve done that too.

Being willing to do the work meant starting with ME. I needed to look at myself fully; not only did I need to see my values, my needs and my wants I needed to accept and appreciate them and love myself for them. This enabled me to evolve into the woman I am now, the woman who is in the relationship I’ve always wanted.

I don’t ever feel lost anymore. I know who I am, what I want, where I’m going, and I have a deep understanding of what it will take to get me there. Will there be unforeseen circumstances? Will I need to pivot and redirect? Absolutely, and I’m aware and ready. I’m also aware and ready to change my direction if I ever decide I want to, just because I want to. And the best part is, I don’t need anybody to act in any particular way to make me feel better because I know how to feel exactly how I want to feel.

Want this for yourself? It can be yours! Let’s get you on my calendar.

#havemorelove #havefundating #singleandspiritual #lovedating #lovemakeovers #datingandrelationships #onlinedating #midlifedating

 

Where Am I in My Own Life?

Funny thing about the way I used to be … I would focus all my attention on the man of the moment; what he thought, how he felt, the way he ought to be acting to make me feel better (good luck with that) and then I’d complain, “I lost myself in this relationship.” And then I’d stop dating.

Sound familiar?

Here’s what I’ve learned after years of wondering how other women kept creating the relationship I wanted. It’s not about the men. It’s not true that all men are one way and no man is any way – and you don’t need a different app. You have to start with yourself. Your values, your qualities, your quirks and your wants, needs and givens. Your relationship with you is your strongest foundation.

This is the first step in the process I take my clients through in order for them to create the specific, romantic result they each desire. And this foundation is the first layer upon which a quake-resistant relationship is made.

When you know who you are and what you want you will find the partner with whom you can share unbelievable joy!

So, please don’t leave yourself sitting at home on Saturday night thinking about what he’s thinking, feeling or how he’s acting – especially if you’re on a date! You need to show up, engage, bring yourself and be you to the fullest! I promise you’ll never lose yourself again.

#havemorelove #havefundating #lovedating #singleandspiritual #lovemakeovers #datingandrelationships #onlinedating #midlifedating

Always, in All Ways

I have been unmarried my entire life.

For years I believed I was wrong, undesirable, unworthy because I hadn’t been chosen. And you want to know what happened?

I kept dating men whose behavior toward me confirmed my beliefs. I only dated men who treated me like I was wrong, undesirable, and unworthy – and none of them chose me.

That’s right, my love, I learned the Law of Attraction is not about who is attracted to me, it’s about who I am attracted to, which is why I ended up dating men who treated me the way I thought I deserved to be treated.

Since I decided to change that story about myself, and got a dating coach in my corner, I’ve discovered a myriad of ways I am right, desirable and worthy – and now I do the choosing!

If my life hadn’t happened exactly the way it did, I might never have made the effort to figure myself out. And if I hadn’t figured myself out, I might never have identified the stories that were keeping me stuck and ultimately met the perfect man – for me!

And because I went through the process of getting myself truly, for once and for all unstuck, I am a pro at identifying exactly what it is that’s standing in the way of my clients meeting the man who is perfect for them. Working with me it will take you a fraction of the time it took me to figure it out, and I can assure you the thing standing in your way is not what you think it is.

You were always supposed to be in this place at this time because all of your experiences are leading you to the life you want the way you want it. You get to choose the kind of relationship you want to have, the kind of partner you want to be with, and the kind of partner you want to be. Contact me and let’s begin.

 

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