If you want something different you need to do something different.
YOU deserve to feel giddy with delight on Every! Single! Date!
You’re a Smart Girl, you know it’s the actions you take that ultimately create your outcomes. If you want to create a different outcome in your relationships than the one you keep creating it makes sense that you’re going to have to do something different than what you’ve been doing.
But you truly believe you’ve done absolutely everything possible and things just don’t change. The thing is, just because you’re doing different things (like using different apps) you’re probably doing them in the same ways, (like only engaging with men who are unavailable) and that’s what’s creating your same-old, same-old outcome.
What I mean is, maybe it’s not what you’re doing but how you’re doing it.
Your feelings fuel your actions. Literally, like rocket fuel. And I think that actions are not just what we do, they’re also how we do what we do – our behavior.
Imagine yourself doing something simple like pouring a glass of water. When you’re feeling calm you can pour a glass of water without spilling a drop, almost as if you’ve done it all your life! 😉
Now imagine feeling really nervous about something, shaking nervous, and trying to pour a glass of water – you know some of that is landing on the table. Fuel.
How did you feel on your last date?
How do you want to feel on your next date? Happy? Playful? Giddy with delight?
Oh yes, you can, you simply need to find the right grade of fuel – and I can help!
Have you really done everything to create your right match?
What do you think it’s going to take to get you to the feeling you want to feel on your next date? That was kind of a trick question. It’s your thoughts that create your feelings, so the thing that’s going to get you to the feeling you want is a thought that will create that feeling within you.
That’s just crazy, right? It’s the man, right? It’s always the man. It’s what he does or doesn’t do, says or doesn’t say, it’s just him, right? Sorry, no.
Your thoughts create your feelings. Every. Single. Time. Consider this: when there’s a man sitting across the table from you and you like him, it’s because you’re thinking about how much you like the way he looks, the way he talks, the things he says! When there’s a man sitting across the table from you and you don’t like him, it’s because you’re thinking about how much you don’t like the way he looks, the way he talks, the things he says. None of it.
So, now that you know that your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings fuel your actions and your actions create your outcome, what do you think about the outcomes you keep getting in your romantic relationships?
Are you meeting men online and messaging and talking and meeting and you just haven’t met the one? Maybe you are doing everything you can do and it’s just a matter of time. Maybe you really don’t have to take different actions, but if you’re not yet in the relationship you desire you probably have to take those actions in a different way.
How much more time are you willing to give this? Do you want to keep doing it your way and hoping that some day it will work?
Wouldn’t you rather spend time being with your love than just looking for him?
Yes, you CAN feel giddy with delight – and here’s how!
How about investing the smallest amount of time to create the grandest result ever? Rather than spending a lot of time trying to figure out different things to do or how to do things differently, invest your time in feeling different. For this you’ll have to think different thoughts.
Is dating hard? Are all men relationship-phobic? Do all men only want sex or women who are 10 years younger than you? Is it impossible to date during a pandemic? Do you have to lose fifteen pounds to get a man’s attention? If that’s what it takes to get his attention heaven only knows what you have to do to keep it, right?
When you think these thoughts do you feel Angry? Frustrated? Sad? Hopeless?
Just like when trying to pour a glass of water when you’re shaking with nervousness, if you’re going online or getting on the phone or going on a date with someone while you’re feeling angry, frustrated, sad or hopeless you are going to spill all over the table – he’ll be able to see it, hear it, feel it. No matter what it is you’re actually doing.
When you’re ready to create a different outcome in your dating and relationships than the one you keep getting on your own, let’s talk! #havemorelove