The moment I stopped placing the responsibility for my dearth of fulfilling dates on the men I was meeting, stopped singing the song that all men wanted younger, prettier, thinner women, stopped telling the story that no men wanted committed, monogamous, true partnerships, was the moment I was able to take back my personal power and start changing my romantic relationships.
I stopped looking outside of myself and started to look inside, and I admit I didn’t like what I saw. I wasn’t walking my talk I wasn’t living my life the way I wanted a partner to be living his. Truthfully, I didn’t recognize myself because I’d never taken the time to know who I was, and I certainly wasn’t embracing anything about myself.
Over the course of my life, I’d taken on a lot of other people’s beliefs and their behaviors that didn’t serve me, and they were hiding my true self from the world like a cloud hides the sun. That was the moment I allowed myself to take the actions I needed to create the relationship I really craved.
Doesn’t make a lot of sense to complain about men not seeing me when I didn’t let them. They were seeing the shield I’d built around myself to protect me.
It also doesn’t make a lot of sense to complain about men not appreciating me when I wasn’t appreciating myself. And yet it does make sense, because this is exactly what we do. It’s the real law of attraction – we’re attracted to people who treat us in the ways that support what we think and how we feel about ourselves. We’re attracted to people who treat us in the ways we think we deserve to be treated. So, if I didn’t appreciate myself, doesn’t it make sense that I chose to be with men who didn’t appreciate me either?
Are you ready to see and be seen? Maybe you’re not sure? Please, comment below and tell me how you feel about taking back your power and changing the life you’re living into the life you want.
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