Own Yourself


Self-love, self-esteem, self-respect, self-awareness, self-growth, self-knowledge, self-sabotage, self-storage (just wanted to see if you’re paying attention 😉

One dictionary definition of self: a person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action

When I first started auditioning for commercials, I would regularly walk into rooms filled with women who looked enough like me to confuse my own grandmother. How did they ever choose the one actor to represent their product? Even though they obviously had a preference about how they wanted their spokesperson to look, booking the gig came down to her qualities.

essential … distinguish from …

What are the qualities essential to yourself, to you being you, that distinguish you from any other person who could be confused with you?

Having posed that Q, what popped to mind? Are you reveling in thoughts of your compassion, sparkling wit and generous spirit? Or are you mired in the list that includes your hiccupy laugh, lack of patience and how you talk too much when you get nervous?

Each of your qualities is essential because taken together they make up yourself in your unique, God-given glory. If even one went missing, you would not be the woman your right match is seeking at this very moment in time. To decide that some are good, others are better, and some are never to be mentioned, is to deny yourself an integral part of you. Each makes up the part that sets you apart.

What do you think might happen if you decided that all the parts of you are equal? How might you feel if you choose to believe that your laugh is just as valid as the wit it represents?

I have an idea … you might start to embrace true ownership of yourself. All of yourself.


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