I have a friend who thinks I’m nicer than she is. She’s told me that a couple of times when we’ve been discussing men. I don’t think it’s true.
This exchange usually takes place when we’ve been discussing what a man said or did and she’s adamant it’s because he intentionally wanted to cause some type of heartache. I’m equally adamant that since we don’t know for sure, it could just as well be true that he might have had no nefarious intention at all.
I’ve told her that I’m not nicer than her, I simply go out into the world looking for different evidence than she does.
I believe that men are people, and all people are inherently good, so I go out into the world looking for evidence to support my belief, and evidence ultimately means – the way I interpret the circumstances around me.
Right in this moment you have belief systems in place. You might have taken on the beliefs of people around you, maybe you created yours for yourself, and as you go about your day you interpret what you see in a way that will support what you already believe.
In other words, you aren’t believing what you see, you are seeing what you already believe. I don’t think men are inherently good because I meet more nice ones than you do, I meet more nice ones than you do because I already believe they exist. And it’s also about interpretation.
I meet all the same men you do, and some of the ones you don’t think are nice are ones I think are very nice. And it’s not because my standards are lower than yours.
It’s because my sights – and my thoughts – are set higher.
What if simply changing the way you’re seeing your world is the key to you creating the enriched romantic relationship you desire?
What would it be worth to you to find out how you’ve been unconsciously creating what you’ve got now and how you can consciously start to Have Fun Dating!
Doesn’t that sound better than NOT having fun dating? 😉
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