For Your Best Relationship – Get the Weight Off!

It’s all too much.

It started out in March being asked to shelter in place, and not knowing how long it would last. Weeks have become months, there was a little relief, and now it looks like many states have reversed their reversals – we’re being asked to stay at home again; stay off the beach, stay away from the lake – in the height of summer! 

In addition to the concerns around the pandemic, we are being confronted with the reckoning of systemic racism and deciding how to move forward toward creating an anti-racist society. It’s been building, growing, taking you over –  you keep returning to the thought that there’s way too much going on in the world right now and it’s all scary. 

Do you end each day feeling overwhelmed or helpless or both? Have you put on weight while sheltered in place? Have you been engaged in a relationship in which you feel joy or are you not allowing yourself to meet people right now?

Here’s a way for you to take back your power. If you watch the news on TV, read news online, talk to friends about what’s happening, scroll your social media feed and seek out information as often as possible, stop and think about what you’re actually doing.

What can I do about it? 

You’re doing too much. You think whatever “it” is, is all outside of you and “it” is too much, but what is really happening is you are creating it being too much. You’re putting too much emphasis on knowing the news, and the news puts too much emphasis on fear to get and keep your attention, and fear feeds on your sense of peace and compounds your desire to know more – because you think that’s what will help you. You think it’s good for you to be informed, but you wind up feeling overwhelmed and helpless. Here’s why:

Taking in the news delivers the same kind of dopamine hit to your brain that sugar does. And the many, many avenues available to you right now for taking it in 24-7 combined with the focus you can choose (liberal-leaning news vs. conservative-leaning news) is creating the off-the-charts level of fear that is the equivalent of the sugar-coma induced by ingesting high quantities of concentrated and refined food.

It’s just like with food: the proper amount is necessary, too much leads to larger size clothing. Some news keeps you informed, too much leaves you with more of a sense of dis-ease than power. And remember also that your brain thinks whatever delivers dopamine is very important to your survival – so it really believes that concentrated hits are much more important than they really are.

Do you want to lose body fat or is it thoughts that are weighing you down? If you don’t know how to start please schedule a time for us to speak.  

Not until I dropped the mental weight did the fat come off for good. 

For most of my twenties and thirties I was a size 10 or 12 – the single digit was a dream. I did figure out how to lose large amounts of weight, though, and I remember the day I first fit into a size 8 – hallelujah! Within a year I was back looking for 10’s. 

A few years later I made it down to a 6, then within months was shopping for 8’s again. It seemed as if I was doomed to lose weight and then ‘find’ it again… not the way I wanted to spend my time or mental real estate. Is it the way you want to spend yours?

I used to weigh 375. That’s right. I had a 175-pound body and a 200-pound chip on my shoulder and it wasn’t until that chip came off that the body weight fell away – and has stayed away. That was a revelation for me and I became certified as both a Life and Weight Coach because I want to help you create the love for yourself that is your right – and it starts with you accepting yourself as you are right now, exactly the way you are, the way you look, the way you weigh. 

If you’ve ever told yourself that you don’t deserve love – or anything else – because of your weight, if you’ve ever thought you can’t possibly be loved because of your weight, that is so not true. I will gladly share with you all that I have been taught, and have experienced and created in my own life transformation. 

If you want to stop weighing yourself down and you don’t know how to start, please schedule a time for us to speak for absolutely no charge to you.