What’s your sign?
Remember that? Was it just an urban legend, or did men really used to walk up to women in bars and ask them what their astrological sign was?
What it means is, what’s your label? Tell me one thing about you that I can latch onto and define you by it. Hey, you can’t do that, Geminis don’t do that. Really, you want to do that? I didn’t think Geminis do that, do they? You probably can’t really do that, you should reconsider your desire.
How do you label yourself? What have you decided about yourself? That you are a woman who always, or never, or sometimes … what?
Maybe you’re not conscious of your label, so tell me how you talk to yourself. When you’re having a conversation in your head – and we all have them – what words do you say? Do you start out like you’re talking to your best friend or child, “Hi honey, how was your day?” or do your convos go more along the lines of, “I’m not good at that” or “I’ll never figure this out” or “I always choose the wrong man.”
How do you want to talk to yourself?
These words that you repeat to yourself over and over reinforce the label you have. When you keep telling yourself you’re not good at something and you’ll never figure it out you’re labeling yourself as someone who’s not good at that. And not only are you not currently good at it, you’ll never be good at it – You’re limiting yourself.
And right now your life is very different, your usual activities are upended, you’ve got so much more time to be talking to yourself. You’ve got to catch yourself! You’ve got to listen carefully and notice when you’re telling yourself a story that labels and limits you.
I changed my talk by changing my thought first.
When I had a girl cat I used to call her sweet girl. That wasn’t her name, that’s how I spoke to her. When I was a foster mother to a baby girl I called her sweet girl. That wasn’t her name, that’s how I talked to her.
My turning point came one day when I caught myself saying something really mean to myself and the voice in my head screamed, “Why don’t you ever call yourself sweet girl?”
I wasn’t expressing as much love to myself as I did to everyone else in my home.
And from that moment forward I have.
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Let’s talk thoughts.
I didn’t simply say different words to myself and hope that would make a difference in how I felt. I changed the thought that was at the root of my negative labeling. The thought that changed not only my talk, it also changed my life, “I am a worthy person and I deserved to show myself love and compassion.”
I am so much more kind to myself, I am so much more gentle with myself, I am so much more committed to my self-worth and self-care than I used to be. I’ve created the fulfilling relationship that I’ve always wanted. And since I’ve done it for myself I’ve become much more able to create it with others.
Yes, you can.
You are worthy of love, compassion and a sense of personal fulfillment. You deserve to be in love with anyone you want, and it will be so much more fun when you start with yourself!
Yes, even now, you can have the fulfilling relationship you desire!
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