Your Best Relationship With Your Feelings

Today is the first day of the rest of your life! 

That doesn’t mean that every day is going to be like this one, it means that you have just as much control over what you do with this day as you do with any other. Really.

What are you going to do about it?

It’s up to you. Even now. You have the right and the ability to make this day what you want it to be. It’s true that you can’t change what’s happening outside your door, what you can change is what’s happening in your head. And that will make all the difference to this day in your life and ultimately to the rest of it.

If you feel like things are okay, you’re acclimating to being indoors, you’re keeping busy with projects and things, then good. Maybe you don’t need to figure out anything different. But here’s what I realized about myself.

I didn’t notice my feelings I noticed my actions.

I wasn’t a child who received Easter baskets, although as an adult I have occasionally picked up a chocolate egg or a Peep, just because I thought it would be fun, although I haven’t done it in the last two years. When I was buying groceries last week I noticed a display of Easter candy and tossed a bag of chocolate eggs in my cart.

Last night I ate the entire bag. This morning I woke up and asked myself why.

I’ve learned that when I ask myself why I’m doing something the answer is not a circumstance; the thing that’s happening is not a reason for my actions. I know that my actions are a result of what I’m feeling, and those feelings are coming from thoughts I’m thinking.

I had the beautiful opportunity to truly examine my feelings right now, and then took the time to figure out the thoughts I was not even aware I was thinking that were creating those feelings that led me to eat candy I don’t even want. 

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How about a feelings diet?

Almost 2 years ago I lost the last 22 pounds I’ll ever have to lose. Two years ago, and those pounds are still off. The way that I lost the weight is so very different from the way I’d ever lost weight before that I never worry that I’ll regain them like I have after each diet I’ve ever been on before. I know I’ll have totally different long-term results.

I didn’t lose my desire for sweets I lost my desire to eat sweets instead of feeling my feelings. I’ll give you an example – one day last year I met a friend for lunch. We were looking at the menus, she asked me about the man I’d been dating and I told her we’d ended the relationship. She said, “Oh, well then obviously we’re going to have dessert.” I had no idea what she was talking about.

I asked her why we would do that? She said, “Because you broke up and you’re going to tell me about it.” I still had no idea what she was talking about.

I don’t have to go back to my old habits or behaviors. Even when they have brought me comfort in the past. Today is a new day. It’s the first day of the rest of my life.

This can be the best day of your life!

If you are doing things that feed you emotionally, spiritually, creatively – good for you! If not, would you like to? Would you like to use this time, these days to create the life you desire?

Yes, even now, you can have the fulfilling relationship you desire!

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