The Gift That Keeps on Giving

Falalalala! … we’re one week closer to Christmas! Are you closer to having the love that you really, really want?

Have you been able to gift yourself the time, the attention, the permission you need, to make creating an enriched, romantic relationship a priority for yourself in 2020?

Are you having fun dating? Would you like to?

Contrary to what you might be thinking, that is not a trick question! Yes, you can have the relationship of your dreams and yes, you can have fun on a date!

Here are 3 things you absolutely need to do to make that happen:

Plan ahead

You get to decide how you want your date to go, and you get to make it happen. Isn’t that amazing? You might wonder how that’s possible, but right now, without even realizing it, you’re already planning. How? By believing that all men online are married, or only want sex, or both. By believing that a man is uninterested in you or boring when he might only be talking a lot about his work because he’s nervous. By listening to your friends’ complaints about men as if they’re the gospel truth. Spoiler alert – they’re NOT.

When you consciously plan ahead you have the luxury of dreaming up a positive result and you can be prepared to make it happen.

Look for what’s good

In the location, in the conversation, in him! My clients all know the first question I’ll ask them after a date is, what are the three things you liked about him?

It’s really easy to slip into a habit of only noticing what’s not good, seeing what you don’t like and pretty soon, that’s all you see. If you want to find someone to love it will help to like him first. 🙂 And you do that by consciously developing your “like” muscle.

Quit quitting

Quit quitting on your dates. Quit quitting on yourself. I used to do it all the time. I’d be sitting across a table from a man who was talking a lot about his work or a hobby or the game on TV, and rather than realizing he was just trying to make conversation I’d decide he wasn’t interested and I’d quit. I’d stop listening, I’d stop talking, stop engaging. Then I’d get home and decide it was so hard I needed a break, so I’d stop dating altogether.

Can I share a secret with you I wish someone had told me?

Quitting anything is really quitting on yourself, and quitting isn’t the quickest way to achieve anything you want.

Promise yourself that in 2020 you’ll do something different so you can have something different! And don’t just say it, do it!

You can have the love you desire!

I want you to know that the most effective way to get to the heart of your specific issue is to have a coach like me help you. I’m trained to quickly find the root of what’s creating the results you’ve got so you can start creating the results you want right away.

When you’re really, really ready to have the thing you really, really want and you’re ready to get help to achieve it at last, I’m only a click away!

If these ideas resonate with you and you’re ready to change your romantic results click here to schedule a free, 20-minute coaching session.

You’d be amazed at how fast your life can change in 20 minutes!

Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:

I quit quitting!