This week I’ve been making the time to think. Think about why, exactly I first decided to invest in coaching for myself. About why, exactly I ultimately decided to become a coach. And who, exactly, I want to coach.
If you’ve heard me tell the story about waking up on the morning of a very big birthday (it ended in a 9!) and realizing that I’d been living my whole life the way I thought others wanted me to live it and that I wasn’t happy, you’ll think this was my why.
Actually, this was the impetus to start my search for direction. I started reading, attending workshops, talking to friends – I opened my thought to possibility that life could be different than it was.
It took me a couple of years of being open to new ideas and just trying, dabbling, playing, considering different things, often free or low-cost, that brought me to the realization that turned the tide.
One day I thought, “I’ve been single all my life, so I’ve had many more first dates than most people. I’ve lived in 3 different states, and while building my acting career I’ve worked as a temp for many years, so I’ve had many, many more first days on different jobs than most people.”
It struck me in that moment that I had changed absolutely everything outside of me that I could change. If my life had been a science experiment I was the only constant – so if I wanted a different result I was all there was left to change.
That was the moment! With that realization I saw that for all the years I’d been ‘trying’ to change I’d been trying to change things that were outside of my control. And so I felt out of control!
If I wanted different results in my life I needed to change the things that are within my control – my thoughts, my feelings, my actions, my results.
Shortly after that I received an email from a couple who work together as relationship coaches. I’d never received an email from them before. They were having an event – interviewing 30 different coaches in 30 days.
I tuned in every day, I found a coach whose message and style resonated with me, and signed up for a 5-week course she offered. Because of what I learned and implemented I experienced excellent results for myself and I signed up for her yearlong course.
If you are open to the possibility that your life can be different than it is now, that you really can have an enriching romantic relationship, please contact me.
I want you to know that the most effective way to get to the heart of this issue is to have a coach like me help you. Quickly finding the root of what’s going on with you so you can start changing it right away – it’s what I’m trained to do.
When you’re really, really ready to have the thing you really, really want and you’re ready to get help to achieve it at last, I’m only a click away!
If these ideas resonate with you and you’re ready to change your life contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 25-minute phone call.
Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:
I won’t stop ’til I figure it out!