All of these things are circumstances. Circumstances simply exist.
But that’s not good enough for us humans, no. Rather than accepting and playing nice with them we argue with our circumstances.
We wish for more time in a day.
We wish for more money in the bank.
We wish for less weight on our bodies.
We wish other people would act differently.
Boy, do we ever wish other people would act differently!
Because we think if all of these circumstances change we will feel ‘better.’
Do you try to manage things outside yourself in order to feel better?
Do you blame (or credit) your results (your perception of your success in business or romance or weight management) on things or people outside yourself?
Do you think your business would be booming if it weren’t for all these people who can’t afford to pay you?
Do you think you’d have the perfect romance if it weren’t for all these men who won’t commit?
Do you think you’d be thin if it weren’t for your partner (or mother or kids) sabotaging your diet by eating whatever they want?
How dare all of these people not fall in line!
As someone who once (and only once) tried to get a toddler to behave the way I thought he ought to (that was a spectacular failure!) I want to offer you the idea that it’s actually more difficult to get other people to do what you want, especially when they’re adults, than it is to change the way you think, feel and act to create a different result.
How amenable are you to behaving the way other people think you ought to?
Aha – exactly my point!
Now try bending time to your will.
You can’t manage any of these things exactly because they are outside you.
You want to know what you can manage?
Your own thinking.
You want to know why?
Because it’s inside of you.
Actually, because it’s inside of you it’s the only thing you can manage. How come that’s usually the only thing you don’t ever try to manage?
I want you to know that the most effective way to get to the heart of this issue is to have a coach like me help you. Quickly finding the root of what’s going on with you so you can start changing it right away – it’s what I’m trained to do.
When you’re really, really ready to have the thing you really, really want and you’re ready to get help to achieve it at last, I’m only a click away!
If these ideas resonate with you and you’re ready to change your life contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 25-minute phone call.
Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:
If it’s within me it’s within my control!