Not allowing yourself to ever feel hunger isn’t only about your inability to lose weight – it’s also a metaphor for the way you’re living the rest of your life.
It’s not only the last 20 pounds you’re not letting go of, it’s the job with no career potential, the small living space and the boyfriend who’s a “practical choice” with whom you have nothing in common that you’re allowing to weigh you down.
Nothing of great importance or value is achieved without feeling a passion for it. A hunger. Along with that object’s great importance and value comes its level of difficulty to achieve. Actually, its level of value is commensurate with its level of difficulty to achieve – and therein lies your problem.
Its level of difficulty to achieve includes many things that involve knowing, doing and being in ways that are different from how you know, do and are now. This means you need to learn new concepts, develop new abilities, stretch into new spaces. This means change. Change feels uncomfortable. Just like feeling hunger is uncomfortable.
If you’ve trained yourself away from feeling discomfort then you’ve trained yourself away from achieving anything of any importance to you because doing difficult things feels uncomfortable sometimes.
Not all the time, though.
Just most of it. 🙂
Because, Smart Girl, when you’ve trained yourself out of feeling discomfort, or any feelings that you define as bad or negative, you also lose your ability to experience good, positive, joyous feelings as well. And those are exactly the feelings you need to feel to fuel the actions you need to take to achieve things of great importance and value to you. And achieving those things feels amazing!
When you tamp down your feelings you wind up living in this neutral zone of not feeling much of anything. You find yourself shrugging your shoulders and saying, “I’m okay” and “I’m fine” because that’s how you feel.
What do you want to be?
I bet you want to be happy. Not okay. Not fine. Happy.
How will you ever be happy when you can’t feel joy? And how will you ever feel joy if you don’t let yourself feel all the feels that are not so joyous?
Of course you don’t know how to do it. You’re a beautiful human and we’re wired to seek comfort and ease at all times. If you want to live your life with intention, to have things you want rather than continuing to settle for things you’ve gotten, you need to take intentional steps to circumvent your default behavior.
Coaches are trained to help you navigate those feelings of discomfort that stop you from changing when you’re on your own.
I’d hate for you to wake up one morning and realize you traded the life you really want for feeling (insert shrugging shoulders emoji) “fine.”
When you’re really, really ready to have the thing you really, really want and you’re ready to get help to achieve it at last, I’m only a click away!
If these ideas resonate with you and you’re ready to change your life contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call.
Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:
This is the part where I get to feel hungry!