When I was little sometimes I would ask my father why something was the way it was and he’d say, “Because.” And I’d ask, “Because why?” and he’d say, “Because I said so, that’s why.” And then he’d smile, shrug his shoulders and shake his head and say, “I don’t know.” So in case you read that like he was being a hardass, it didn’t come off that way at all. The smile told me he was joking. And the shrug told me he just didn’t know, even before he said so.
And then he’d say, “That’s an excellent question. What’s your next one?” 🙂
If we were doing that dance today one of us would just ask Siri or Alexa for the answer.
Outside of my father’s running ‘Dad joke’ because seems like such a valid answer to any question, doesn’t it?
Although it’s not really an answer so much as it is a justification. Whether you realize it or not, because keeps you right where you’ve always been.
Because we’ve always done it that way.
Because we’ve never done it that way.
It’s not only a justification for what is, it’s an excuse for what will never be.
I can’t, because… followed by something that isn’t the absolute rule you think it is. And you absolutely could because if you wanted to!
It occurs to me that if you asked a child a question you might hear the response, “I can, because…”
Feeling a little stuck lately? Challenge yourself to notice how often you say, “because” throughout an average day. Then take all those negative reasons and make a list of all the positive things you can do, because.
Then think like a child and say, “YES I CAN!
When you’re really, really ready to have the thing you really, really want and you’re ready to get help to achieve it at last, I’m only a click away!
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Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:
I can be, do or have anything, because I say so!