Okay, Smart Girl, let’s talk about children.
And not just any children – let’s talk about foster children.
It’s halfway through May and I just found out that National Foster Care Month is now, not June as I originally thought. I’m going with halfway through the month is better than never ’cause that’s self-love!
Why, in a space usually reserved for dating, marriage and general romance, would I want to talk about children?
Because I know there are a lot of you reading this that want children.
And part of the anxiety you have about dating is that you won’t be married in time to have them.
Well, that really depends on how you look at it.
What if there was more than one way to be a mama? What if there was more than one way to raise a child? What if there was more than one way to experience the concurrent joys and terrors of being a parent to a baby, toddler, child or teen? There is.
It’s called fostering and right now there are children in every county in this country who need, want and deserve to feel the same sense of love and safety you would lavish on your “own” child.
I fostered a baby girl (who was 3 weeks old and weighed 4 pounds, 10 ounces when I first held her) and, no disrespect to Kundalini, but the 4 months I spent being a fulltime mama to her was the most fulfilling experience I’ve ever had in my yoga pants.
I know there are a lot of you reading this who have probably already thought about fostering. I know it because every day that I pushed that stroller I met at least one of you who said, “Oh, fostering, I’ve always wanted to do that.” So the question is, Why aren’t you doing it?
I hope you will take the step to move from wanting, wishing and wondering to discovering. There are organizations that can help you learn about it so that you can make an informed decision and take a massively beautiful action.
I know you believe there’s a clock ticking on the subject of you and children. There is, but it’s not the one you think.
The clock that’s ticking even louder than yours is the one that’s in the dreams of every child who was just removed from an unsafe environment and is hoping for a safe, quiet loving place to call home and warm, comforting arms in which to fall asleep- even if only for a little while.
If these ideas resonate with you and you’re ready to change your life contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call.
Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:
There’s a child waiting for me. I’m going to stop waiting for a relationship.