Do you want to be in a relationship?

I know you think the answer is obvious, but I want you to really think about that question.

Is a relationship what you want to have happen or is it what you intend to make happen? Because, Smart Girl, you can want all you want but wants are only wishes unless you take action, and you are actually acting on your intentions.




  1. the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected
  2. the state of being connected by blood or marriage.
  3. the way in which two or more people or groups regard and behave toward each other.

Relationships are characterized by the way people are connected, the way in which people regard and behave toward each other. I’ve heard it said that there are 3 entities in a great relationship – 2 people and the relationship itself – and each must be given its due separately and equally.

Are you actively looking for a good, loving, equal, partnership or are you intending to find someone to fit himself around the life you are already living?

Do you feel overwhelmed at the thought that this is going to be ‘another thing’ you will try to cram into a packed schedule?

Are you willing to examine everything you have and do currently and determine if it’s necessary or desirable to continue having and doing it?


Are you willing to give up some things that you currently have and do in order to create a life with someone?

I intend to create a relationship in which I keep my self – keep the way I am and am willing to give up anything else about the way my current circumstances look if that is what is necessary in order to be with my rightest match.

Now I can hear you, “I have children, grandchildren, a career, a business, etc., are you telling me I have to give up these things in order to have a man in my life?”


What I am telling you is that you must be willing to examine each of these things and all the other things that make up your current circumstances. Examine the hours of TV or Netflix or web surfing or chatting with friends, the daily trips to your favorite cafe, the Saturday yoga classes (that you think a man needs to go to in order to prove he’s right for you).

Then be willing to create totally different circumstances – together.

Maybe you and he will discover TV shows and movies you both enjoy. A different cafe you both like. Maybe you’ll wind up taking each others’ grandchildren to the park on a Saturday morning.

Intend to be willing to change.

And if you don’t know where or how to start don’t let it stop you – call me!

I know you can do it! I also know you will feel so much better on the other side! And when you need help, I’m only a click away.

Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!

Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!

Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at info@lenaehrenberg.com and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.

What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!

Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:

My current circumstances are not who I am.