“When you know you know.” How many times have you heard someone say that and wondered, But how? How did you know? How do you know?
How many times have you said it yourself? If you’ve said it I’ll bet it was in the context of having decided someone was a “No.” “I don’t need to go out with him again, he’s not for me. When you know you know.”
It sounds so immediate, doesn’t it? I thought that’s what was supposed to happen, that I would know immediately that this person was or wasn’t for me.
Except, what if you don’t really know until you know? And what if you haven’t given yourself enough of a chance to really know? That’s probably why you wonder how to know – because you were just going with your default reaction and you weren’t really knowing.
I know this will come as a shock to you, Smart Girl, but life isn’t actually like the movies. There are probably not going to be fireworks shooting when you meet your one. You might not feel a torrent of lava-like heat running through you – it might only feel like a trickle of lukewarm water. You might not feel warm at all.
You need to learn to overrule your default because that’s what got you where you are today. And where you are today is not where you want to be tomorrow.
You need to start looking for ways to count men in rather than out or you will, eventually, run out of men. And you’ll still be single.
Tough love? Yes. And tough love will get you to True Love.
I know you can do it! I also know you will feel so much better on the other side! And when you need help, I’m only a click away.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:
I know myself in each moment and I know that I know!