I am about to accomplish a goal.
On March 28, 2018 I hit ‘send’ on what I intended to be the first of a full year of blog posts.
With the exception of one week of technical difficulties beyond my control I have posted my blog every Wednesday since then.
But what’s the result?
Funny, but I’ve never thought about the difference between achieving a goal or a result – I always thought they were different words for the same thing, but now that I’m staring it straight in the eye I realize they’re very different.
A goal is a thing, a tangible representation, it’s ‘what we have to show’ for our effort and we know we’ve achieved it because we either have the ‘thing’ or we don’t – we’re either married or we’re not, we’re either VP of Sales or we’re not, we’re either 25 pounds lighter or we’re not, we’ve either graduated or we haven’t.
Results come from the process of going after our goal, all the things we’ve had to learn on the journey. What I’m discovering now, first hand, is that results aren’t what we have to show they’re how we’ve had to grow.
Showing is about what we see. Growing is about who we become.
So here’s why I wanted to share this with you, Smart Girl. I know you wanted 2018 to be the year you created the loving partnership you’ve always dreamed of. And now you think that since you’re not in a relationship you have ‘nothing to show’ for your entire year of dating.
If you were my client (and you are, in this moment) I’d tell you to stop beating yourself up because you didn’t attain your goal and do something much more productive. Rather than focusing on the thing you don’t have, focus on the results you created!
I want you to write down the answer to these questions. Yes, I said write them down. With a pen. On paper.
How am I different now than I was a year ago?
What did I learn about myself by going out on all those dates with all those different types of men?
Who am I now that I wasn’t last year?
What are my values, interests, passions?
Who is a better match for me now?
You’re probably so different now that you ought to be looking for a different type of man – and you might not have known that consciously if you hadn’t written it all down. 😉
I know you can do it! I also know you will feel so much better on the other side! And when you need help, I’m only a click away.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself: