Are you on social media every day because you’re afraid that if you’re not constantly seen you’ll be forgotten?
Do you think that in order to build (run, maintain) your business you must be on all the sites, at all times of the day (and night)?
Do you always feel like you’re missing out on something no matter how much you do? Have you taken a good look at what you do vs. the results you achieve?
Last March 28th I set myself the goal of posting a blog every Wednesday for one year.
And I did so faithfully for 9 months. Until… Last Wednesday I was not able to get my computer started no matter what I did and I didn’t have time to stay home and baby it. I had places to be and things to do and (with a wink to The Rolling Stones), time waits for no mac.
Did I wish I could have continued the roll? Yes. Do I think the entire exercise must start anew or else it won’t ‘count’ because I missed one week out of 52? Absolutely not.
This is not a failure, this is a fail.
What’s the difference? When something does not go as expected, as planned, or as desired, and you step back and evaluate it, figure out what didn’t work and why, and take that knowledge forward with you to the future, that is a fail.
When something goes amiss and you judge it and yourself, decide that it was all for naught, it was a terrible idea, I should have known this would happen, what a waste of time, see, I told you it wouldn’t work, what was I thinking, I couldn’t possibly have done this … that’s a failure.
Because you’re not evaluating it, you’re not taking anything away from it that you can put to good use later. You’re not learning from it. And if you’ll notice, the focus of your wrath and rant is on you, not on the workings of the thing itself.
Sometimes things fail and what’s sad is that often when things fail people consider themselves failures and they stop trying to do whatever it was that they did that failed. Rather than taking the fail as a lesson and applying curiosity to it, changing, growing, trying again and eventually succeeding they take it as an omen, apply judgment to themselves and stay stuck and unhappy.
If you’ve had failed relationships in the past you’re not a failure, you’re a human.
If you’re a woman human and you’d like to create a loving relationship with a man human I’ll tell you a little secret. Sometimes men experience fails, too.
And the men who can take those fails as lessons and apply curiosity to them appreciate women who can do the same. Smart Girl, I’d love to help you meet your human and the only way you’ll do that is to make a decision and take an action!
I know you can do it! I also know you will feel so much better on the other side! And if you need help, I’m only a click away.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:
I can either win or I can learn, but I can’t … oh, no, wait, … I can do it all!
PS: I appeared in more searches on LinkedIn last week – the week I didn’t post – than I have in any other week since I started posting. Coincidence? I think not!