In one short week from today we’ll be in a brand new year! Before I make resolutions (for my secret about that read to the end) I take a personal inventory; how am I today compared to how I was before? Who am I today, compared to who I was yesterday, last month or last year?
In my very first post of this year, even though it was a few months into the calendar, I talked about waking up with thoughts of love and gratitude, and I still do that daily. I open my eyes and consciously choose to wonder, what do I love? What am I grateful for? Who am I grateful for? Who do I love? Who loves me? The list has gotten longer every single day.
I don’t have a set way to do this. Sometimes I make a mental list in my thoughts, sometimes I pull out an old notebook, sometimes a pretty journal; I allow myself to be led to that morning’s choice and know it’s always the right one.
As my list of love and gratitude has lengthened my ability to state my affirmations with conviction and hold them with firm belief has gotten easier. Coincidence? I think not.
And as I affirm I evolve.
I could do what I think some of you might be doing, look at the physical manifestations of my life and think that nothing’s changed. Do you still live in the same place, drive the same car, earn the same income as you did last year? Are you still single? Do you think that’s what makes you who you are?
Rather, look at the experiences you’ve had and revel in all the skill it took you to achieve them, the actual tools you had to learn and the mental evolution you created to make them happen.
In 2018 I was a guest for multiple radio and podcast interviews – first times for each!
I gave my first live talk on being a foster parent and I did a TEDx Talk!
For half the year I was in a relationship with a man whose depth of character is my new ‘type.’
I showed up and didn’t hold back. I used to believe that if I held back and didn’t allow myself to be ‘too attached’ it would make any possible ending easier to handle. Now I firmly believe that my willingness to be all in is what helped me move through the ending with grace and strength and without blaming myself or tearing myself apart – there was nothing I didn’t say or do in the moment. I was complete and I felt absolutely no need for ‘closure.’
Someone once said that they only regret the things they hadn’t done. So here’s one of my biggest takeaways from 2018. If I do it all in the moment I have nothing to regret after the fact. I highly recommend it!
We’re on the cusp of a Brand New Year! Infinite possibilities, opportunities to start anew and create different results! How will you change? How will you grow? How will next year be different from this one?
Here’s my secret to resolutions – I only make one and I’ve been making the same one every year – I resolve to make different mistakes this year than I’ve made in the past.
I wish you much love, peace, success and pure joy!
Will next year be the year you’ll Have More Love?
I know you can do it! I also know you will feel so much better on the other side! And if you need help, I’m only a click away.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:
As I affirm I evolve!