Another Idea Worth Spreading

I did it! Yesterday I was onstage at TEDxBartonSpringsWomen 2018!

 Now that this portion of the experience is complete, I’d like to share some of what I thought about doing a TED Talk and some of what I learned is actually true about doing a TED Talk. (Here’s a link to last week’s post describing a little bit of what got me there

I thought in order to be eligible to stand on the dot I would have to have proven my worth by having either built a multi-comma business or being seen by others as an expert in my field.

I thought that once I was rocking that business success or expertise they would seek me out.

I thought that at that mystical date in the distant future when I’d be doing a Talk I would feel 100% confident and ready because of all the ways I’ve listed above that would have proven my worth from the outside.

The truth is I was accepted because the organizers felt I had an idea worth sharing that I developed from having had personal experience of it and seeing evidence of it in others.

The truth is a good friend forwarded an application with a note that read, “This isn’t the right time for me now, what about you?”

The truth is that throughout this process I’ve vacillated between 100% confident and ready and 100% scared, confident and ready.

The truth I learned is that doing a TED Talk is like doing, or not doing, anything else in life. We have to say, “I’m going to risk failing at this.” and then we have to take the action; submit the application, ask for the date, do whatever it is we’re scared to do.

If we only measure our worth to the world by commas, percentages and what others think of us we’ll miss out on the worth in our humanity, the value in our experiences – and so will the rest of the world!

That’s another idea worth spreading!

I know you can do it! I also know you will feel so much better on the other side! And if you need help, I’m only a click away.

Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!

Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!

Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.

What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!

Right now, take a moment and affirm for yourself:

I measure myself by my actions, not other people’s reactions.