Why do we do this work?
Have you ever truly taken stock, taken a personal inventory, really gotten to know who you are, what you want, what you believe? Knowing yourself is the first and most important step in finding your true love and creating the relationship you want to have, rather than settling for the up-until-now’s you’ve gotten.
Have you ever had a birthday? A number that ended in a zero? When you woke up the next day did you suddenly feel different? No, you felt just like the you you were the day before. That’s why you need to learn to be happy now, because you won’t just wake up the morning after your wedding and suddenly be happy. You will feel exactly like you.
Have you ever lost a lot of weight? After wearing all your smaller size clothes once, you start to feel the same, don’t you? Your body just starts to feel like your body, you get used to your weight again and you forget that you’ve gone through this physical change. Because it’s only a physical change – all of the emotional stuff that you had going on before the weight loss is still there.
That’s why diets don’t usually work, because the loss of weight is just the exterior, it’s literally on the surface, and what you really need to clear off is the emotional stuff you were avoiding feeling. With many diets the weight won’t come off because the physical weight is not the issue. And the reason that so many people who actually do lose weight gain it back is because of what I said earlier – you’re going to wake up one day and realize that although the weight is gone your issues aren’t and if you’re an emotional eater, someone who eats to soothe yourself during trying times, you’re going to eat that weight right back on.
That’s why you can’t just keep throwing yourself out there and dating without addressing your patterns, behaviors and the issues that you’ve been carrying around with you, because if you do, and you do meet men, you’ll just keep repeating all your same patterns and behaviors.
You need to learn to love yourself now because getting a boyfriend while you don’t love yourself, while you feel like you’re not enough, while you’re looking for someone else to love you so you don’t have to is not the answer.
Nobody can love you enough if you don’t love yourself. Have you ever tried to compliment someone who kept deflecting all your kind words? How frustrating is that when a person won’t accept your honest attempts to show them love and kindness? It can actually feel insulting, right? That’s what it will be like for the men you date! Aren’t you looking for a man to offer you love and kindness? If you deflect his attempts he may very well feel insulted, think that you don’t really want what he has to offer because you won’t accept what he’s offering. No man will ever be able to love you enough, no man will ever be able to assure you enough that yes, you are enough – until you learn that for yourself.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at info@lenaehrenberg.com and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm to yourself:
I love myself, I respect myself, I value myself and I appreciate others who do as well!