Nervous Nellie

Lately I’ve been thinking a great deal about intuition and the difference between true, spiritually guided intuition and that ‘voice’ in my head. I call mine Nellie, ‘cause, you know, Nervous Nellie, Whoa, Nellie! If it can’t stop me from trying anything new, it will at the very least try to slow me way down. How do you tell the difference between a true angel message and that voice? Which one do you follow?

This is one of the most important skills each of us must learn for ourselves in order to reach our desired goals in life. What if it’s actually the most important life success skill of all?

There’s a school of thought that says the voice we hear constantly is ego, and that ego is the thing that keeps us separate from our true selves. Ego is the negative messages you play on endless loop, the constant barrage of “I’m not enough; I’m not good enough, thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough, I’ll never, I can’t, I won’t, what’s wrong with me?” It’s debilitating and pointless. And ultimately, it keeps you separate, not only from your true self, but from everyone else, too.

The intuitive angel messages are positive. They point you in the right direction. They make you feel good – or at the very least, they don’t make you feel actively bad. They provide useful information and guidance.

Messages from advertising and the media are world ego. The endless barrage of negatives, the fear-based stories are meant to make you feel bad. To be perfectly blunt – unhappy, frightened people buy more stuff – consequently the media and advertisers both have a financial interest in keeping you unhappy and scared – and shopping. It is in these interactions with people who want us to buy things that we must most firmly stand porter at the door of our own thought.

Angel messages are God’s ideas whispered to us, and their motives are pure. When I’m conflicted, not sure if the voice I’m hearing is angel or ego I’ve learned to ask, “Where is this thought leading me?” and “How is this thought making me feel?” If it’s simply a thought that beats me up or down, blames, shames or belittles me, if it makes me feel exhausted or makes me decide to not do something new, to stay at home and seek comfort in the familiar with no supporting reasons and no other options, I chalk that up to fear – fear of change, of growth, of learning. That’s ego. When the voice is leading me to take one action over another and the acting leads to growth that is an angel message. That is leading me to something rather than simply keeping me from something.

I know you can do it! I also know you will feel so much better on the other side! And if you need help, I’m only a click away.

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What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!

Right now, take a moment and affirm to yourself:

I can trust my intuition and I follow where it leads!