When you’re in the vast wilderness of online dating, are you corresponding (messaging, talking, texting, coffee-ing) with only one man at a time? When you first meet someone do you date him and only him and ignore all the other ‘likes’ collecting in your inbox? Even if you don’t know if he’s The One? Is this the best way to discern if he is The One?
Do you believe it’s the ‘right’ thing to do or the only way to do it? Do you think you’d be considered naughty – or worse – if you dated more than one man at a time? First, I think naughty’s a great word to use about a two-year old who pulls the cat’s tail after being told not to, not a word to be applied to a grown woman. Unless you find it sexy 😉
Please allow me to try and change your mind. And before you say no and click, remember that the only way to truly change your life is to first change your mind. Hard as you try to do it backwards, your circumstances will never change until your thoughts about them do.
Now let’s be clear. I’m talking about dating more than one man at a time – coffees, dinners, long walks on the beach, baseball games, movies, bowling, etc. I’m not talking about engaging in multiple sexual relationships or meeting many different people’s children. Okay, now that that’s clear, let’s proceed:
Here are only 3 of the reasons I believe you ought to allow yourself to date more than one man at a time –
It gives you a sense of abundance rather than lack – and that changes your energy. Knowing that there are many men who might be right for you, and not just one who you better hold onto no matter how wrong, changes the way you present yourself to the world, and to the men in it. Abundance is an expression of love, lack and limitation are the antithesis of abundance. And doesn’t it make more sense to express love in your search for love?
It helps you really discern whether or not someone is right for you based on shared values, qualities, energy and compatibility before you become physically intimate rather than convincing yourself that he’s ‘the one’ while under the influence of a big ol’ jolt of oxytocin. And being a Smart Girl you know that physical intimacy is exponentially better when you’re already emotionally intimate. Just sayin’…
Maybe the greatest reason is:
It will create the most peace of mind you’ve ever had in your life around dating! You’ll be so busy fielding calls from so many men that you won’t be obsessing about why one man hasn’t called! Priceless.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm to yourself:
I bask in the abundance of loving opportunities!