Acts of Allowing

Have you heard of the Law of Attraction? One description I’ve heard is that by concentrating on either positive or negative thoughts we bring either positive or negative experiences into our lives, including people. The way it’s stated in popular culture is: we attract to us people who are at the same vibrational frequency we’re at ourselves.

There’s truth here, although it doesn’t tell the whole story about how we wind up where we are in life. And the pop culture sound bite leaves many people feeling bad about themselves. Some think they must be having negative experiences because they are in some way not enough and brought it on themselves.

I believe it’s not about who or what we attract to us; it’s about who and what we allow to stay with us. It’s not so much one law of attraction as it is many acts of allowing that create our circumstances – especially when we find ourselves repeating our experiences over and over and…

There are many, many different kinds of people in the world and if you spend enough time outside of your home you will, eventually, run into a lot of them. They’re out there and by simply walking down the street or standing in line at the grocery store – or going online to date – you will come into contact with bunches of different types of people. Some of them you’ll like and some of them you won’t. Some of them are nice and some of them are not. Some of them are for you and some of them are not. You are not calling them up or in or attracting them to you, you are simply being in the world and others are being alongside you.

How can you tell if you’re allowing? If you are on date number three (or 12 or 50) with a man who looks and sounds and acts a lot like the last man you dated – or like the one to whom you were married – and those were not happy times – and you ignore or excuse or justify the behavior and tell your friends and yourself that this time it will be different and you continue in the relationship even with all the warnings – that is allowing.

And remember, my Smart Girl who wants to change your life – If you spend your life allowing all you’ve allowed in the past you will just keep living the same life over and over – and over again. A Wise Woman knows when to pick up her toys, go home and implement a new plan.

Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!

Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!

Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.

What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!

Right now, take a moment and affirm to yourself:

I am allowed to be Powerful, Joyous, Wise and Free!