The baggage we carry in life is not our past experiences; it’s not simply our having a history of relationships that have gone ‘wrong.’ The baggage is the action of carrying the memory of those experiences forward into every new relationship and expecting it all to happen again now the way it did then. (If you haven’t already, read last week’s post: Great Expectations!)
Our beliefs fuel our emotions, which propel our actions, which create our results. If you believe that you’ve got baggage, and you are currently dating a brand new man and you believe he is just like all the others, (or you have the belief that all men are alike) your beliefs are creating your result. You chose to date a man who is similar in one way or another to the ones you’ve dated before. You expect him to act the way the others have acted, and you are acting toward him the way you have acted in the past. Yes, it’s true, you are; you just don’t see it.
And then you wonder why every relationship you have is just like all the ones before.
I have a very wise friend, an 85-year old man who, whenever he hears a woman say, “All men are alike!” says, “When you’ve met one man you’ve met one man.” And he tells men the same thing about women.
Wise woman, put down your bags and pick up a new insight. Change your approach. Try something new, just for the heck of it! Treat the new man sitting across from you for the very first time as if he’s a new man sitting across from you for the very first time!
This is one way to stop repeating the mistakes of your past and step into the life, love and happiness you want, deserve, desire.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm to yourself:
I approach every new relationship with openness and curiosity!