It might not feel this way to you now, although it is possible for you to have fun dating. What it will take first is your willingness to change what you think about dating. No small task – and totally worth it!
How is it possible to change what I think about dating? It’s the truth, isn’t it?
It might not be the truth it might simply have become your truth. What you believe is what you’ve grown to believe over time, your beliefs are simply thoughts you’ve been thinking for so long that you don’t remember every thinking anything different.
If you want something different you have to think something different. This will cause you to feel something different. And then you will act in a different way and then you will get a different result.
If you want a different result in dating you must change the way you think about dating! Part of that is learning how to set a new intention. Because I have a hunch… I believe that part of the reason you’re not having fun dating is because you’ve been going on dates hoping to meet your husband. You’ll have so much more fun on a date if your intention is to enjoy being on a date!
Creating a happy marriage is a process, and (aside from arranged marriages), that process has many steps that involve social interactions. Social interactions are, by definition, social, which is fun, not work which is … work! Start by setting the intention that you are going to enjoy each step in the process of creating your relationship. When you set an intention to enjoy each step you will look for ways to do that and you’ll find them.
The way to set a successful intention is to decide on the outcome you want that is totally dependent on you – it’s the result of an action that you will take in a particular moment. An intention is not something you hope someone else may do in response to your action.
Example – instead of trying to look or act a certain way hoping that he’ll ask for a second date really look at him and act like yourself – find the things about him that you like, see how he’s good, nice, quirky, kind – invite fun into your thoughts and you’ll have a lot more fun on your date!
Can you set an intention that is totally dependent on you – a decision you will make, an action you will take – that will bring you peace, calm, joy?
I know you can do it! I also know you will feel so much better on the other side! And if you need help, I’m only a click away.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at info@lenaehrenberg.com and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm to yourself:
My intention is always to do well, be well and act from my highest self!