Just like with a brick and mortar building it’s impossible to build a strong structure for anything on an incomplete or shaky foundation. Your relationship with YOU is the foundation of every relationship you will ever have in your entire life. You’re the only person you know for sure will be with you ‘til death do you part –don’t you want to have the best possible relationship with yourself that you can? Especially if it helps foster the best possible relationships you can have with others?
And how do you accomplish this? Along with knowing yourself and your values you absolutely need to love yourself. Oh, I know, you’ve heard it before-
What does it really mean to love yourself?
To me, loving myself means I appreciate my qualities, my character and my quirks. I enjoy being alone because I find value in the way I spend my time. I nurture myself, speak kindly to myself and don’t beat myself up when I’ve acted in a way that is not aligned with my highest nature. This last one is hard, it’s been a journey, and it’s an ever-evolving work in progress – and it’s possible for you, too!
Here’s a quick test for you: When you make a mistake or fail at a goal or behave in some way that is embarrassing to you what do you say to yourself? For example, if you’re on a diet and yet find yourself eating things you think you shouldn’t, do you call yourself names and tell yourself you’re incapable of ever being able to lose weight?
Would you say those things to a friend? YES or NO
Would you find it positively motivating if someone told you you’d never accomplish the thing you’re trying to do? YES or NO
If the answer to these two questions is NO then why would you talk like that to yourself?
Today take the first step toward loving yourself: Talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend or the way you would want a stranger to talk to you.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at email@example.com and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm to yourself:
The most precious loving relationship I have is the one with myself.