If April showers bring May flowers then what does June bring? And no, Angelenos, I’m not referring to that ‘Gloom’ that moves into town for the month, I’m referring to …
The prevailing thought is that June is the month for weddings – and graduations, too. Consider the similarities – they’re both splashy celebrations that herald new beginnings. They both involve walking down an aisle in a gown intended to be worn for only that occasion to music that has become identified with only that ceremony and receiving a piece of paper as confirmation of a new title. A bride receives new letters that precede her name, just like graduates receive new letters to follow theirs.
The wedding may be the start of the married phase of your life but it’s also the culmination of the single phase and oh, how it sometimes feels like you’ll never move to that next step on the ladder of your life.
How to begin? What’s the first step in getting married? Is it getting engaged? Is it becoming a couple? Is it dating? Is it having a first date? Is it finding someone to date? Is it when you decide on the list of qualities that you desire in a mate?
It starts way before that.
How well do you know yourself? How actively aware are you of your own values? And how willing are you to stand up for them? What is truly important to you and the way you choose to live your life?
I promise you it will have a much more positive impact on your life – on your dating and all future coupledom – if you seek a mate whose qualities align with your own values rather than simply creating a list of attributes (height, income and profession are attributes, not qualities) that sound exciting or fun. Attributes are only what we see on the outside; relationships are an inside job. Ultimately, a man’s sense of love and responsibility, his viewpoint on the world and your part in it, personally as a woman and together as a couple, are much more vital to your healthy, happy relationship than his height or profession. And your sense of love and responsibility and your viewpoint on the world are vital to him as well.
Do you desire more love in your life? You can have more love!
Do you want to have more fun dating? You can have more fun!
Don’t know where to start or how to get to the next rung of the relationship ladder? I would love to help! Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can schedule a free, 20 minute phone call so that you can tell me what you believe is holding you back and I can offer you at least one, specific, action you can take that will change your results.
What if today is the day you take an action that propels you forward into the rest of your happy, loving, romantic life!
Right now, take a moment and affirm to yourself:
I know my values and my value, and I seek out others who know theirs.