When do you know you’ve found your right match?
Is it in a moment? In a heartbeat? In a flash of recognition? Do you just suddenly think, “He’s the one!” Or is it a gentle awareness that dawns on you until it grows from a flicker into an intense flame?
I used to think that I’d know in an instant and for many of my younger years if I didn’t have that immediate, gut-wrenching feeling I’d pass on the man – no matter what we had in common or how aligned our futures might have seemed.
The funny/not funny thing is, over all the many years of my growth and exploration I’ve learned that my most satisfying, fulfilling relationships have been with men for whom I allowed the flame to grow, men I would have passed on in my twenties. This is one of the many blessings and benies of being a woman who is smart and strong and over fifty. A woman who’s willing to feel all the feelings on the platter of life, not just the ones presented so prettily on Pinterest.
The truth is, that gut-wrenching twist isn’t so much a confirmation of positive partnership as it is the result of a fleeting thought that’s so deeply ingrained in you it doesn’t even register consciously. You think – ooh, he’s my type! And, before you can realize it, you feel it – boom!
You’ve taken all the actions and made all the choices you have up until now because of what you were taught. And those choices and actions led you to where you are now – are you in the relationship you desire? Do you believe you ever can be?
If you’d like to have a romantic partner who is a true partner, if you’d like to meet your right match, if you want your relationships going forward to be much different than they’ve been up ‘til now you can learn how to override what you’ve been taught and make different choices, take different actions – and create wildly more satisfying results!
You can have the love you’ve been seeking. Please make an appointment for your private, 20-minute coaching session so you can learn why you’ve had the experiences you’ve had up until now. That’s the first step in creating the new results you want.
I promise you that in only 20-minutes you will get answers to questions you’ve been asking yourself for a long, long time.
Are you really ready to create an enriched, romantic relationship? Do you want that one long-lasting love of your life?
If you’d like to apply this in your life and don’t know how, please go to http://lenaehrenberg.com/contact/ to schedule a free, 20-minute coaching session.
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