Variations on the same theme keep coming up, so today we’re talking about…
THIS is why you’re not having any fun dating!
In order to create a different result it’s vitally important to understand why you’ve got the result you have. When you don’t understand why you’re not having the relationship you desire and you don’t understand why you keep having the relationships you don’t want you’re just stuck in the same loop. You wind up dating the same man with a different face over and over. And over again.
A friend sent me this note and I share it with her permission:
“14 Steps to Having Fun Dating! talks to me of a few years ago. I was dating as part of a husband hunt and it wasn’t fun. I was looking for those tick boxes. Then I met a guy who was totally inappropriate and decided I would just have fun. Now we’re married of course, because I was focused on having fun WITH HIM not JUDGING HIM (her emphasis). What you are doing is so important”
When you scroll through pics how do you decide whether to swipe left or right? Do you wonder if he’d make a good husband or if he’d be fun to date?
When a friend says she wants to set you up with her bf’s buddy, do you ask what he does for a living or if he likes karaoke?
When you’re sitting across the table from a man you’ve just met are you weighing his words, actions and potential against your tick boxes, or thinking you like the sparkle in his eyes when he talks about his hobbies and he’d probably be fun to spend time with?
I know, I know – you want to be married. Or at least in a committed relationship. But here’s the thing. In order to eventually be married with someone you can’t skip the part where you’re not married with someone. No man you ever meet will be your husband if you don’t first allow the man you meet to be your date. And then your boyfriend. Then your fiancé…..
The man you’re meeting for the first time who you’re disappointed with because he isn’t your husband isn’t supposed to be your husband, he’s supposed to be your date. And be honest – he’s probably doing a much better job of being your date than you’re giving him credit for.
Are you really ready to create an enriched, romantic relationship? Do you desire that one long-lasting love?
If you’d like to apply this in your life and don’t know how, please go to http://lenaehrenberg.com/contact/ to schedule a free, 20-minute coaching session.
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